BerandaEducation in Independence Children
One of the tasks of parents is to educate children to become independent. Independent attitude can already be accustomed since young children: wearing their own clothes, put shoe laces, wearing socks and various other small jobs. Sounds easy, but in practice this habituation many obstacles. Not infrequently the parents feel not bear or just can not wait to see the little one trying to tie his shoes for a few minutes, but had not yet shown success. Or directly provide a myriad of advice, complete with solutions that must be done, when the child is finished telling argument with friends bench.
Indeed the problem facing children everyday can be easily solved by the intervention of parents. However, this certainly will not help children to become independent. He'll get used to "flee" to parents when facing problems, in other words he used to depend on others, for small things though.
Then attempt what parents can do to get children tend not to rely on someone, and be able to make decisions? Below are some things that you can apply to train children to become independent.
1. Give the opportunity to choose
Children who are accustomed to dealing with situations or things that have been determined by others, would be lazy to make their own choices. Conversely, if he used faced with several options, he will trained to make their own decisions for himself. For example, before determining the menu that day, the mother gives some alternative dishes to choose children for lunch. Similarly, in choosing clothing that will be used to go to her friend's birthday party, for example. The habit of making decisions - decisions alone in a small scope early on will make it easier to determine and decide their own future things in life.
2. Appreciate his efforts
Respect the slightest effort to solve their own children are shown the difficulties he faced. Parents usually do not tolerate children who need long time to open his own candy tin. Especially when that time the mother was busy in the kitchen, for example. For that parents should give him a chance to try and not directly intervened to help membukakannya. Explain also told him that to open the cans will be easier when using the tip of a spoon, for example. The opportunity you provide will be felt, child as a reward for his efforts, so will encourage him to do his own little things like that.
3. Avoid asking questions
The questions asked of parents, which is meant to demonstrate attention to the child, can be interpreted as an attitude that too many want to know. Therefore avoid nagging impression. For example, children who had just returned from school, would be upset if attacked with questions - questions like, "Learning anything at school?", And "Why did his uniform dirty? Surely you fight back at school! "And so on. Instead, the child will be happy and feel welcome when greeted with a short sentence: "Hello children's mother had come home from school!" So if there are things he wants to tell me, naturally the child will tell parents, without having the push-push.
4. Do not directly answer the question
Although one parent task is to give correct information and knowledge to children, but parents should not directly answer the questions posed. Instead, give him a chance to answer that question. And if it's your job to correct the wrong answer or give an award if he was right. This opportunity will be trained to look for alternatives of a problem-solving. For example, "Mom, why do we have to shower twice a day? "Let the kids give some answers as to what he knows. Thus the child was trained to do not just accept answers parents, who would they be accepted as a standard answer.
5. Encourage to look at alternatives
We recommend that the child knows that to solve a problem, parents are not the only place to ask. There are many other sources outside the home that can help to overcome the problems faced. For that, the way that parents can do is to notify other appropriate sources to request help, to solve a specific problem. Thus the child will not only depend on the parents, which is not impossible that someday it will be difficult for himself. For example, when the child comes to parents and complained that the bike sounds when driving. You can give the answer: "Why, yes, we'll check into a bike shop."
6. Do not break his spirit
Quite often parents want to prevent children from being upset by saying "impossible" to what is being attempted child. Actually, if the child is willing to show a desire for independence, encourage him to continue to do so. Never you make him lose motivation or expectations about something I want to accomplish. If children ask your permission, 'Mom, Andi would come home from school joined shuttle car, can? "Actions to answer:" Well, if Andi want to ride shuttle car, right Andi must get up early and got home over lunch. Better not deh, yes "as it surely will make the child lose the motivation to become independent.
Should the mother said "Andi want to ride shuttle car? Wow, sounds like fun, yes. Try to tell the mother why Andi andi want to ride shuttle car. "In this way, at least kids know that parents actually supported to be independent. Although eventually, with the reasons you ask, these desires can not be fulfilled.
Indeed the problem facing children everyday can be easily solved by the intervention of parents. However, this certainly will not help children to become independent. He'll get used to "flee" to parents when facing problems, in other words he used to depend on others, for small things though.
Then attempt what parents can do to get children tend not to rely on someone, and be able to make decisions? Below are some things that you can apply to train children to become independent.
1. Give the opportunity to choose
Children who are accustomed to dealing with situations or things that have been determined by others, would be lazy to make their own choices. Conversely, if he used faced with several options, he will trained to make their own decisions for himself. For example, before determining the menu that day, the mother gives some alternative dishes to choose children for lunch. Similarly, in choosing clothing that will be used to go to her friend's birthday party, for example. The habit of making decisions - decisions alone in a small scope early on will make it easier to determine and decide their own future things in life.
2. Appreciate his efforts
Respect the slightest effort to solve their own children are shown the difficulties he faced. Parents usually do not tolerate children who need long time to open his own candy tin. Especially when that time the mother was busy in the kitchen, for example. For that parents should give him a chance to try and not directly intervened to help membukakannya. Explain also told him that to open the cans will be easier when using the tip of a spoon, for example. The opportunity you provide will be felt, child as a reward for his efforts, so will encourage him to do his own little things like that.
3. Avoid asking questions
The questions asked of parents, which is meant to demonstrate attention to the child, can be interpreted as an attitude that too many want to know. Therefore avoid nagging impression. For example, children who had just returned from school, would be upset if attacked with questions - questions like, "Learning anything at school?", And "Why did his uniform dirty? Surely you fight back at school! "And so on. Instead, the child will be happy and feel welcome when greeted with a short sentence: "Hello children's mother had come home from school!" So if there are things he wants to tell me, naturally the child will tell parents, without having the push-push.
4. Do not directly answer the question
Although one parent task is to give correct information and knowledge to children, but parents should not directly answer the questions posed. Instead, give him a chance to answer that question. And if it's your job to correct the wrong answer or give an award if he was right. This opportunity will be trained to look for alternatives of a problem-solving. For example, "Mom, why do we have to shower twice a day? "Let the kids give some answers as to what he knows. Thus the child was trained to do not just accept answers parents, who would they be accepted as a standard answer.
5. Encourage to look at alternatives
We recommend that the child knows that to solve a problem, parents are not the only place to ask. There are many other sources outside the home that can help to overcome the problems faced. For that, the way that parents can do is to notify other appropriate sources to request help, to solve a specific problem. Thus the child will not only depend on the parents, which is not impossible that someday it will be difficult for himself. For example, when the child comes to parents and complained that the bike sounds when driving. You can give the answer: "Why, yes, we'll check into a bike shop."
6. Do not break his spirit
Quite often parents want to prevent children from being upset by saying "impossible" to what is being attempted child. Actually, if the child is willing to show a desire for independence, encourage him to continue to do so. Never you make him lose motivation or expectations about something I want to accomplish. If children ask your permission, 'Mom, Andi would come home from school joined shuttle car, can? "Actions to answer:" Well, if Andi want to ride shuttle car, right Andi must get up early and got home over lunch. Better not deh, yes "as it surely will make the child lose the motivation to become independent.
Should the mother said "Andi want to ride shuttle car? Wow, sounds like fun, yes. Try to tell the mother why Andi andi want to ride shuttle car. "In this way, at least kids know that parents actually supported to be independent. Although eventually, with the reasons you ask, these desires can not be fulfilled.
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